tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post3419587375709523183..comments2024-03-08T09:28:10.145-05:00Comments on The Faux Fountain Pen: Kissing, Sex, & Other Naughty ThingsSarah Fosterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09481750127533816819noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-5418136691402683442016-04-15T19:36:52.423-04:002016-04-15T19:36:52.423-04:00Personally, it took me a couple of years to get co...Personally, it took me a couple of years to get comfortable writing various flavors of sexual situations (had to, because my chose forte is adult fiction), then another couple of years to write them so that they don't come off as scenes from an adult movie (again, because of my chosen forte).<br /><br />It really does all depend on the audience you're shooting for, for the type of sexual situation you want to write. For me, what you describe would take me about an hour to write the first draft, then another half hour toning it down to suit the scene in question.<br /><br /><a href="http://gbmjrflashy.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Father Nature's Corner</a>G. B. Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09783331838434598963noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-92116311564930314882016-04-14T11:57:07.307-04:002016-04-14T11:57:07.307-04:00I don't dabble in full-blown sex scenes becaus...I don't dabble in full-blown sex scenes because it's too complicated to write out. As far as kissing scenes, I try to plan them out as much as I can. They usually have a purpose. Otherwise, it's not worth it. I try to put myself in the scene, kissing the woman. I try to imagine what actions I would be doing, how to describe it, and the emotions involved. It's not easy, but it makes it worthwhile. <br /><br />G. R. McNeese from<br /><a href="http://blacklightproject.wordpress.com" rel="nofollow">Project Blacklight</a>Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-14978818228696439242016-04-14T09:53:06.346-04:002016-04-14T09:53:06.346-04:00I don't write erotica so I go heavy on the emo...I don't write erotica so I go heavy on the emotional and light on the physical descriptions.Tamara Narayanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03725262301091012950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-90580202580794673522016-04-13T22:43:16.756-04:002016-04-13T22:43:16.756-04:00In my books it's all about the emotions though...In my books it's all about the emotions though my editor sometimes sends it back and says make it hotter. I hate doing that.<br /><a href="http://www.susangourley.blogspot.com" rel="nofollow">Susan Says</a>Susan Gourley/Kelleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02669793865290876168noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-21113359337425663712016-04-13T21:42:56.696-04:002016-04-13T21:42:56.696-04:00I am pretty sure I could never write a sex scene ....I am pretty sure I could never write a sex scene ... but I find it interesting that we both came up with the same topic for the "K" post :)Mollyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08414201637917215413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-32565903509932779282016-04-13T20:30:03.313-04:002016-04-13T20:30:03.313-04:00I was about to say something, but then I read MJ&#...I was about to say something, but then I read MJ's post and totally agree! Maybe you're coming at it from the wrong angle.<br /><br />I've written a few sex scenes, one a steamy quickie that focused more on the sensual part of it, but it was also something they both wanted. I imagine, though, that if it's something neither want, we need to be in his head going through his thoughts while it's happening.Debra Renée Byrdhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08717966370332027353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-45381591476732850822016-04-13T19:00:33.630-04:002016-04-13T19:00:33.630-04:00I have a tendency of putting in sex scenes and the...I have a tendency of putting in sex scenes and then cutting them later because of changes to the story or characters. I'm not sure you want the sex scene to be sexy if neither of them want it and maybe the fact you can't figure out how is a sign that it is right.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-85140550157906859192016-04-13T16:31:19.808-04:002016-04-13T16:31:19.808-04:00Yep, sex is tough to get right on the page. My fav...Yep, sex is tough to get right on the page. My favorite literary event of the year is the Bad Sex Awards :D (How nasty of me, right?) And you're right, a lot of it depends on the genre. Romance vs Thriller vs Literary vs Sci-Fi... They'll all describe a sex scene differently. Oh. Wait. GREAT idea for a comparative post there! (Dibs ;) )<br /><br />Happy A2Z-ing...<br />Guilie @ <a href="http://lifeindogs.blogspot.com/" rel="nofollow"> Life In Dogs </a> (and member of co-host Damyanti's team, <a href="http://www.a-to-zchallenge.com/2016/03/atozchallenge-introducing-damyanti-and.html/" rel="nofollow"> D's Company </a>)Guilie Castillohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09006999087139126972noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-51190573188270839642016-04-13T14:25:18.901-04:002016-04-13T14:25:18.901-04:00I agree with MJ, if they don't want to have se...I agree with MJ, if they don't want to have sex, where is the passion? Now, if you mean, they don't want to have sex, but really do want to have sex but are being stopped by some cultural, religious, or personal issue- then make sure that battle is expressed and when they throw all caution to the wind, then that could up the sexy factor. <br />Elizabeth Seckmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00045076826326574984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-27861787221724600192016-04-13T13:38:29.348-04:002016-04-13T13:38:29.348-04:00I read somewhere about how one writer described se...I read somewhere about how one writer described sex scenes using metaphors, so that he didn't describe all the technical aspects of the scene, but he still described it in a way that the reader knew what was going on. Neurotic Workaholichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06775298184138766683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-90602086116113982262016-04-13T12:38:45.945-04:002016-04-13T12:38:45.945-04:00I think tantalize is the best word to keep in mind...I think tantalize is the best word to keep in mind while writing sexy scenes. cleemckenziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15456109243453726483noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-54574637765781703282016-04-13T11:33:36.736-04:002016-04-13T11:33:36.736-04:00Writing sex is always tricky, balancing the type o...Writing sex is always tricky, balancing the type of story, the intended audience, what feeds the plot, the emotions, and your own reticence (or lack thereof). Whew! Best of luck finding the balance in yours!<br /><br /><br />@mirymom1 from<br /><a href="http://samanthabryant.com" rel="nofollow">Balancing Act</a><br />Samantha Bryanthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17684962313482409801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8203719610395611719.post-34946728783910253072016-04-13T10:26:31.321-04:002016-04-13T10:26:31.321-04:00So, without knowing what's happened to these c...So, without knowing what's happened to these characters to get them to this point...If their sex scene is something neither of them really wants, and it's more of a way out that's bogged down by emotions, should it really be sexy? Maybe if you just focus on the emotional catharsis side of it and not the sexy side, it might work and/or feel better?<br /><br />I usually write sex scenes in layers. They start off very PG and then I go back and add in layers and details until the scene just feels right. There was one such scene in Effigy that I kept avoiding because I didn't know how to write it, but it eventually got to the point where I had to admit that the scene didn't work without it.<br /><br />I also like that build-up to a first kiss.M.J. Fifieldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15626475963328519693noreply@blogger.com